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October 24, 2001--
Three years ago today my life came to a sudden stop. At 3:00am I received a phone call from my dad telling Eric and I that my brother had been involved in a serious car accident and that they didn't know if he was going to survive. The next hours that followed were the most horrible hours of my life. We woke Riley up, who was a little over two months old at the time, and drove the two hours from Bowling Green to Columbus. I just kept praying that God would allow him to live until I got there, I wanted to see him one more time and tell him good bye. By the time we reached the ICU at Grant Hospital they were pretty sure that Mikey would survive, but we were unsure what his life would be like. He had serious head injuries and brain surgery would follow. Riley and I spent the next two weeks in Columbus, spending our days at the hospital as Mike moved from ICU, to step up ICU, and eventually to rehab. The days were long and tiring. Nursing Riley at the hospital, trying to come up with meals to eat when no one really had an appetite, dealing with the roller coaster of emotions as Mikey's progress seemed to stall...His head injury damaged the part of his brain that handles impulse control. Due to the location of the injury Mike became angry, rude, violent, perverse...at first we laughed, to keep from crying. But eventually we really began to wonder if the Mike we all knew would ever return. Unfortuately, he never fully recovered. He still struggles with impulse control, although you would never know it unless you knew him well. A lot of painful things were revealed to my family through this process. We discovered that Mike was not who we thought he was, a lot had been hidden in secret. We discovered that my parents church "family" was not the community we had always believed them to be when our lives fell apart.
The good news is that Mike is alive. The last three years have not been easy for him or my family. He has continued to struggle, he healed for the most part physically, but he is still quite broken emotionally and spiritually. But, he is growing. I believe he is on a journey. He's really put my parents through hell, but that have shown me an example of unconditional love that blows me away. I've been angry with Mike often over the last three years. Angry that his choices remain the focus of our family life. Angry because I've seen my parents weep so often for him. But I think I'm over that now. Now I just want Mike to be whole, healed, at peace with who God created him to be.

4 comments:

Oobs,

It's been a crazy 3 years!! A lot of confusion, anger, tears, and mixed emotions. But more than that a great time of learning who God is, and how much He loves us. People disappoint, but God does not, and sometimes I have a really hard time remembering that. These last 3 years, dealing with the fact that after his recovery Mike was not going to be the next Billy Graham, that he continued to disappoint and hurt others, has taught me more about the awesome grace of God than anything else ever could have. Every time I get frustrated and angry with Mike and his choices God taps me on the shoulder and lets me know I have disappointed Him often as well, but that He has been patient with me, and I remain part of His family. He has extended His grace to me time after time. How could do anything less for my son? You said it well; the good news is Mike is alive, and I believe he is on a journey. It takes some strange turns, but the journey continues. I am confident that Mike will become the man God created him to be, at peace with himself and his Creator. I know we will all continue to pray to that end. Oobs, I love you, Eric, Riley, and Trey more than I could ever express. I treasure your love, support, and prayers. Dad

6:50 AM  

I am by far the most blessed woman in the world.
Mom

10:28 AM  

I'm thankful Mikey survived too. Not because we were so close or that we are even close now. We are not. I'm glad because I simply feel blessed to know you, your parents, and your brother. I see so much potential in Mikey, maybe more than he sees in himself. God has given him a second chance, and third chance, and perhaps more. This may be an overly simplistic view, but God's apparently not done with him here and I'm glad for that. I'm sure my outside view allows me to see things that you might not and hides from me things that are obvious to you. But the goodness I see in you, I also see in Mikey. May God bless, you, your family, and may all your relationships be mended in time.

11:28 PM  

kerri,
thank you so much for sharing all of this, i had no idea that this was mike's story- your story.
i rejoice with you that your brother is alive today and here to be a part of you and your family's life. i encourage you today though too to continue the fight for him where he can't yet see he needs to fight. he will come around and he will see who God really desires him to be..someday.
the comments posted from your parents are precious, you are a lucky family despite the trials you have endured.
blessings to you,
kelli

8:32 AM  

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